How Jesus Interacted With People
Does evangelism make you nervous? If so, it will help to study carefully how Jesus interacted with people. Whom did He meet? How did He connect with them? Where did the encounters take place? Who initiated contact? What happened in the conversation'
Like Jesus original followers, believers today are sent into the world to be His witnesses (v. 48 [Luke 24]; compare Matt. 28:18-20; Acts 1:8). We can learn much about how to handle that assignment by asking questions of the four narratives of Jesus lifeMatthew, Mark, Luke, and John. They include more than 40 meetings between Jesus and various individuals.
Who started the conversation'
In nine cases, Jesus initiated the conversations. Examples:
- a Samaritan woman (John 4:7-42)
- a crippled beggar (John 5:1-15)
In 25 instances, it was the other party who started the discussion. Jesus responded to other peoples inquiries. Examples:
- a rich young ruler (Matt. 19:16-30)
- a demoniac (Mark 5:1-20)
- Jairus, a synagogue ruler (Mark 5:21-43)
- a hemorrhaging woman (Mark 5:24-34)
Other conversations were triggered by third parties. Examples:
- tax collectors and other “sinners,” invited to a party by Matthew (Matt. 9:9-13)
- Herod, introduced by Pilate (Luke 23:6-16)
- Nathaniel, invited by Philip (John 1:45-51)
- an adulterous woman brought by the scribes (John 8:1-11)
Where did the conversation take place'
The majority of Jesus interactions occurred in the workplace. Examples:
- with James and John (Matt. 4:21-22)
- with a Samaritan woman (John 4:7-42)
- with a lame man (John 5:1-15)
Many took place in homes. Examples:
- at Peters house with his mother-in-law (Mark 1:29-31)
- with a Syro-Phoenician woman (Mark u:24-30)
- at Zacchaeus house (Luke 19:1-10)
Few were in religious settings. Instead, Jesus talked with people about spiritual issues where they were most familiar. He did not need a special environment or control over the circumstances to discuss things of eternal significance.
What was discussed'
Jesus asked questions in more than half of the conversations He had. This is similar to Gods first response to the first sinners in history, when He asked four questions of Adam and Eve (Gen. 3:9, 11, 13). Examples:
- an adulterous woman (John 8:1-11)
- the scribes (Luke 5:17-26)
- His mother and brothers (Matt. 12:46-50)
- the Pharisees (Luke 6:6-11)
He connected with peoples thoughts and feelings. He understood that new ideas need to be connected with existing frames of reference if they are to last. He seldom pressed for “closure” or a decision. Instead, He understood that time is required for ideas to simmer and for people to own them before they act on them.
What can we learn from Jesus example'
- Jesus knew how to take initiative.
- Jesus responded to the initiatives of others.
- Jesus left room in his schedule for interruptions by friends and others enlisting his help.
- Jesus usually met people on their own turf.
- Jesus was interested in establishing common ground with others.
Witnessing is a science, an art, and a mystery. It involves connecting your faith with peoples experience in a way that they can understand it, in their own time and manner. It means cooperating with whatever Gods Spirit may be doing with them and leaving the results to Him.