- Set a time and place for discussion.
- Define the problem or issue of disagreement.
- Talk about how each of you contributes to the problem.
- List past attempts to resolve the issue that were unsuccessful.
- Brainstorm new ways to resolve the conflict. List all possible solutions.
- Discuss and evaluate these possible solutions.
- Agree on one solution to try.
- Agree on how each individual will work toward this solution.
- Set up another meeting to discuss your progress.
- Reward each other as you each contribute toward the solution.
Together Forever, Aid Association for Lutherans, Appleton, WI, 1997, p. 83