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Q. Are there Second Chances After Death?

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This question often comes our way in various forms, but the essence of the matter is this: Are there second chances after death to correct failures we made in life?

The short answer is “No!”

27 And inasmuch as it is appointed for men to die once and after this comes judgment (Hebrews 9:27).

8 Then that lawless one will be revealed whom the Lord will slay with the breath of His mouth and bring to an end by the appearance of His coming; 9 that is, the one whose coming is in accord with the activity of Satan, with all power and signs and false wonders, 10 and with all the deception of wickedness for those who perish, because they did not receive the love of the truth so as to be saved. 11 For this reason God will send upon them a deluding influence so that they will believe what is false, 12 in order that they all may be judged who did not believe the truth, but took pleasure in wickedness. 13 But we should always give thanks to God for you, brethren beloved by the Lord, because God has chosen you from the beginning for salvation through sanctification by the Spirit and faith in the truth. 14 It was for this He called you through our gospel, that you may gain the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ (2 Thessalonians 2:8-14, emphasis mine).

The most terrifying truth in the world for an unbeliever is that Jesus Christ rose from the dead, and because of this all who die in unbelief will be raised from the dead to spend eternity banned from the presence of God (2 Thessalonians 1:6-10; Revelation 20:11-15; 22:12-15).

The important thing is to settle the issue of our eternal salvation and destination now, while we have the opportunity:

6 Therefore, since it remains for some to enter it, and those who formerly had good news preached to them failed to enter because of disobedience, 7 He again fixes a certain day, “Today,” saying through David after so long a time just as has been said before, “TODAY IF YOU HEAR HIS VOICE, DO NOT HARDEN YOUR HEARTS” (Hebrews 4:6-7; see also 2 Corinthians 6:1-2).

The question is sometimes asked whether a wayward or backslidden Christian will get a second chance to repent and renew his (or her) relationship with God.

In asking this question, some may be basing their concerns on a false assumption -- namely that a wayward or backslidden Christian has lost their salvation and needs to somehow renew it. This is wrong for a number of reasons. The first is this: If it were possible for a Christian to lose their salvation (which is it not!) then it would be impossible to renew them to salvation:

4 For in the case of those who have once been enlightened and have tasted of the heavenly gift and have been made partakers of the Holy Spirit, 5 and have tasted the good word of God and the powers of the age to come, 6 and then have fallen away, it is impossible to renew them again to repentance, since they again crucify to themselves the Son of God and put Him to open shame (Hebrews 6:4-6, emphasis mine).

I would ask three questions of anyone who thinks that a second chance is needed for the wayward/backslidden Christian to renew/reestablish their relationship with Christ after death:

1. In what are you trusting for your salvation – the work of Christ plus your good works, or in the work of Christ alone?

The teaching of the Bible is clear on this point:

19 Now we know that whatever the Law says, it speaks to those who are under the Law, so that every mouth may be closed and all the world may become accountable to God; 20 because by the works of the Law no flesh will be justified in His sight; for through the Law comes the knowledge of sin. 21 But now apart from the Law the righteousness of God has been manifested, being witnessed by the Law and the Prophets, 22 even the righteousness of God through faith in Jesus Christ for all those who believe; for there is no distinction; 23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 being justified as a gift by His grace through the redemption which is in Christ Jesus; 25 whom God displayed publicly as a propitiation in His blood through faith. This was to demonstrate His righteousness, because in the forbearance of God He passed over the sins previously committed; 26 for the demonstration, I say, of His righteousness at the present time, so that He would be just and the justifier of the one who has faith in Jesus (Romans 3:19-26).

8 For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; 9 not as a result of works, so that no one may boast. 10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them. Ephesians 2:8-10

5 He saved us, not on the basis of deeds which we have done in righteousness, but according to His mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewing by the Holy Spirit, 6 whom He poured out upon us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, 7 so that being justified by His grace we would be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life. 8 This is a trustworthy statement; and concerning these things I want you to speak confidently, so that those who have believed God will be careful to engage in good deeds. These things are good and profitable for men (Titus 3:5-8).

To ask this question another way, “Who gets the credit when you are saved? Is it both you and Christ, or is it Christ alone?” In the texts above it is clearly stated that our good works do not contribute toward our salvation, because it is only based on the work of Christ. It is by His doing that we are saved. It is likewise stated in the texts above that good, God-glorifying works are the fruit of a saving faith. The faith that saves is a faith that changes lives.

40 And with many other words he solemnly testified and kept on exhorting them, saying, “Be saved from this perverse generation!” 41 So then, those who had received his word were baptized; and that day there were added about three thousand souls. 42 They were continually devoting themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. 43 Everyone kept feeling a sense of awe; and many wonders and signs were taking place through the apostles. 4 And all those who had believed were together and had all things in common; 45 and they began selling their property and possessions and were sharing them with all, as anyone might have need. 46 Day by day continuing with one mind in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, they were taking their meals together with gladness and sincerity of heart, 47 praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord was adding to their number day by day those who were being saved (Acts 2:40-47).

9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

2. Second question: Having been saved by faith, are you now trusting in the work of Christ alone to keep you in the faith, or are you trusting in the work of Christ, plus your own good works?

27 “My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me; 28 and I give eternal life to them, and they will never perish; and no one will snatch them out of My hand. 29 “My Father, who has given them to Me, is greater than all; and no one is able to snatch them out of the Father’s hand. 30 “I and the Father are one” (John 10:27-30).

31 “Simon, Simon, behold, Satan has demanded permission to sift you like wheat; 32 but I have prayed for you, that your faith may not fail; and you, when once you have turned again, strengthen your brothers” (Luke 22:31-32).

3. Third question: In your Christian life, are you trusting in the work of Christ alone for your sanctification, or are you relying on the work of Christ, plus your own efforts?

30 But by His doing you are in Christ Jesus, who became to us wisdom from God, and righteousness and sanctification, and redemption, 31 so that, just as it is written, “LET HIM WHO BOASTS, BOAST IN THE LORD” (1 Corinthians 1:30-31).

17 “Sanctify them in the truth; Your word is truth. 18 “As You sent Me into the world, I also have sent them into the world. 19 “For their sakes I sanctify Myself, that they themselves also may be sanctified in truth (John 17:17-19).

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself (Ephesians 5:25-28).

Therefore as you have received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in Him (Colossians 2:6).

23 Now may the God of peace Himself sanctify you entirely; and may your spirit and soul and body be preserved complete, without blame at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ (1 Thessalonians 5:23).

18 For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh; for the willing is present in me, but the doing of the good is not. 19 For the good that I want, I do not do, but I practice the very evil that I do not want. 20 But if I am doing the very thing I do not want, I am no longer the one doing it, but sin which dwells in me. 21 I find then the principle that evil is present in me, the one who wants to do good. 22 For I joyfully concur with the law of God in the inner man, 23 but I see a different law in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin which is in my members. 24 Wretched man that I am! Who will set me free from the body of this death? 25 Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, on the one hand I myself with my mind am serving the law of God, but on the other, with my flesh the law of sin. 1 Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. 2 For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has set you free from the law of sin and of death. 3 For what the Law could not do, weak as it was through the flesh, God did: sending His own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh and as an offering for sin, He condemned sin in the flesh, 4 so that the requirement of the Law might be fulfilled in us, who do not walk according to the flesh but according to the Spirit (Romans 7:18-8:4).

1 You foolish Galatians, who has bewitched you, before whose eyes Jesus Christ was publicly portrayed as crucified? 2 This is the only thing I want to find out from you: did you receive the Spirit by the works of the Law, or by hearing with faith? 3 Are you so foolish? Having begun by the Spirit, are you now being perfected by the flesh? 4 Did you suffer so many things in vain—if indeed it was in vain? 5 So then, does He who provides you with the Spirit and works miracles among you, do it by the works of the Law, or by hearing with faith? (Galatians 3:1-5)

12 Therefore Jesus also, that He might sanctify the people through His own blood, suffered outside the gate (Hebrews 13:12).

Strange as it may seem, there is a certain amount of comfort in knowing that wayward or misdirected saints are assured of heaven, assuming that they knew Christ in the first place:

1 And I, brethren, could not speak to you as to spiritual men, but as to men of flesh, as to infants in Christ. 2 I gave you milk to drink, not solid food; for you were not yet able to receive it. Indeed, even now you are not yet able, 3 for you are still fleshly. For since there is jealousy and strife among you, are you not fleshly, and are you not walking like mere men? . . . 10 According to the grace of God which was given to me, like a wise master builder I laid a foundation, and another is building on it. But each man must be careful how he builds on it. 11 For no man can lay a foundation other than the one which is laid, which is Jesus Christ. 12 Now if any man builds on the foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw, 13 each man’s work will become evident; for the day will show it because it is to be revealed with fire, and the fire itself will test the quality of each man’s work. 14 If any man’s work which he has built on it remains, he will receive a reward. 15 If any man’s work is burned up, he will suffer loss; but he himself will be saved, yet so as through fire (1 Corinthians 3:1-3, 10-15).

1 It is actually reported that there is immorality among you, and immorality of such a kind as does not exist even among the Gentiles, that someone has his father’s wife. 2 You have become arrogant and have not mourned instead, so that the one who had done this deed would be removed from your midst. 3 For I, on my part, though absent in body but present in spirit, have already judged him who has so committed this, as though I were present. 4 In the name of our Lord Jesus, when you are assembled, and I with you in spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus, 5 I have decided to deliver such a one to Satan for the destruction of his flesh, so that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus (1 Corinthians 5:1-5).

Should the assurance of sins forgiven forever and the certainty of heaven be twisted into a pretext for sin? Not at all:

18 So then as through one transgression there resulted condemnation to all men, even so through one act of righteousness there resulted justification of life to all men. 19 For as through the one man’s disobedience the many were made sinners, even so through the obedience of the One the many will be made righteous. 20 The Law came in so that the transgression would increase; but where sin increased, grace abounded all the more, 21 so that, as sin reigned in death, even so grace would reign through righteousness to eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. 6:1 What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin so that grace may increase? 2 May it never be! How shall we who died to sin still live in it? 3 Or do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus have been baptized into His death? 4 Therefore we have been buried with Him through baptism into death, so that as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, so we too might walk in newness of life. 5 For if we have become united with Him in the likeness of His death, certainly we shall also be in the likeness of His resurrection, 6 knowing this, that our old self was crucified with Him, in order that our body of sin might be done away with, so that we would no longer be slaves to sin; 7 for he who has died is freed from sin. 8 Now if we have died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with Him, 9 knowing that Christ, having been raised from the dead, is never to die again; death no longer is master over Him. 10 For the death that He died, He died to sin once for all; but the life that He lives, He lives to God. 11 Even so consider yourselves to be dead to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus. 12 Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its lusts, 13 and do not go on presenting the members of your body to sin as instruments of unrighteousness; but present yourselves to God as those alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. 14 For sin shall not be master over you, for you are not under law but under grace. 15 What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? May it never be! 16 Do you not know that when you present yourselves to someone as slaves for obedience, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin resulting in death, or of obedience resulting in righteousness? 17 But thanks be to God that though you were slaves of sin, you became obedient from the heart to that form of teaching to which you were committed, 18 and having been freed from sin, you became slaves of righteousness. 19 I am speaking in human terms because of the weakness of your flesh. For just as you presented your members as slaves to impurity and to lawlessness, resulting in further lawlessness, so now present your members as slaves to righteousness, resulting in sanctification. 20 For when you were slaves of sin, you were free in regard to righteousness. 21 Therefore what benefit were you then deriving from the things of which you are now ashamed? For the outcome of those things is death. 22 But now having been freed from sin and enslaved to God, you derive your benefit, resulting in sanctification, and the outcome, eternal life. 23 For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord (Romans 5:18-6:23).

Are we suggesting that the Christian is to be passive, letting go of all initiative and activity, and waiting for God to work, without our participation? No! We are saying that the basis for our salvation, security, and sanctification is the work of Christ. We are to live by faith, trusting in Christ’s work for salvation, security, and sanctification. Our involvement and activity is a requirement, but not as the basis for these things, but rather as the fruit of faith in Christ alone for the entire work of salvation in our lives, past, present, and future. When we fail, as we surely will, we must always look to Christ, and to His finished work, knowing that what He begins, He will finish.

1 Therefore, since we also have such a large cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us lay aside every weight and the sin that so easily ensnares us. Let us run with endurance the race that lies before us, 2 keeping our eyes on Jesus, the source and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that lay before Him endured a cross and despised the shame and has sat down at the right hand of God’s throne (Hebrews 12:1-2, HCSB).

28 And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. 29 For those whom He foreknew, He also predestined to become conformed to the image of His Son, so that He would be the firstborn among many brethren; 30 and these whom He predestined, He also called; and these whom He called, He also justified; and these whom He justified, He also glorified. 31 What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who is against us? 32 He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all, how will He not also with Him freely give us all things? 33 Who will bring a charge against God’s elect? God is the one who justifies; 34 who is the one who condemns? Christ Jesus is He who died, yes, rather who was raised, who is at the right hand of God, who also intercedes for us. 35 Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? 36 Just as it is written, “FOR YOUR SAKE WE ARE BEING PUT TO DEATH ALL DAY LONG; WE WERE CONSIDERED AS SHEEP TO BE SLAUGHTERED.” 37 But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us. 38 For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, 39 nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord (Romans 8:28-39).

12 For this reason I also suffer these things, but I am not ashamed; for I know whom I have believed and I am convinced that He is able to guard what I have entrusted to Him until that day (2 Timothy 1:12).

So the question is, “In whom are you (or anyone else who claims to be a Christian) trusting? Are you trusting in Christ alone, or are you, at least in part, trusting in yourself?” If you are relying on your works to any degree, be assured that Satan, who “seeks to devour you” (1 Peter 5:8) and to “sift you like wheat” (Luke 22:31) will take advantage of your inward focus. He is a liar and a deceiver who is actively seeking to disrupt the work of God in us and in His church (2 Corinthians 11:2-3). He actively sets out to accuse believers, causing them to despair because of their weaknesses and sins (Revelation 12:10; Zechariah 3:1-5). We must not look to ourselves to find assurance of salvation, security, or sanctification, but only to Christ, the author and perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2). And when we sin, we come back to Christ and to His cross for our forgiveness:

5 This is the message we have heard from Him and announce to you, that God is Light, and in Him there is no darkness at all. 6 If we say that we have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth; 7 but if we walk in the Light as He Himself is in the Light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin. 8 If we say that we have no sin, we are deceiving ourselves and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar and His word is not in us. 2:1 My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous; 2 and He Himself is the propitiation for our sins; and not for ours only, but also for those of the whole world. 1 John 1:5-2:2

I love this text because it strongly encourages us to “walk in the light” of God’s Word, but at the same time it strongly underscores the fact of our frailty, and inclination to sin. John does not allow us to conclude that because we have sinned our salvation, security, and sanctification have somehow been taken away. Rather, he encourages us to confess our sin and to look to Christ for the forgiveness He promises. I close then with these words for fainthearted saints:

8 The LORD is compassionate and gracious,
Slow to anger and abounding in lovingkindness.

9 He will not always strive with us,
Nor will He keep His anger forever.

10 He has not dealt with us according to our sins,
Nor rewarded us according to our iniquities.

11 For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
So great is His lovingkindness toward those who fear Him.

12 As far as the east is from the west,
So far has He removed our transgressions from us.

13 Just as a father has compassion on his children,
So the LORD has compassion on those who fear Him.

14 For He Himself knows our frame;
He is mindful that we are but dust.

15 As for man, his days are like grass;
As a flower of the field, so he flourishes.

16 When the wind has passed over it, it is no more,
And its place acknowledges it no longer.

17 But the lovingkindness of the LORD is from everlasting to everlasting on those who fear Him,

And His righteousness to children’s children (Psalm 103:8-17).

Let us therefore find our rest and comfort and assurance in Him, and not in ourselves. To Him be the glory!

Related Topics: Assurance, Christian Life, Discipline, Soteriology (Salvation)

4. Christlike Love for Your Wife, Part 2 (Ephesians 5:25-33)

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Kids sometimes have some humorous and wise insights on love and marriage. When asked, “How does a person decide who to marry?” Allan (age 10) said, “You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming.” Kirsten (age 10) replied, “No person really decides before they grow up who they’re going to marry. God decides it all way before, and you got to find out later who you’re stuck with.” She must have been a Calvinist!

What do most people do on a date? Martin (age 10) has some youthful insight: “On the first date, they just tell each other lies, and that usually gets them interested enough to go for a second date.”

Is it better to be single or married? Anita (age 9) says, “It’s better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need somebody to clean up after them!” Kenny (age 7) says, “It gives me a headache to think about that stuff. I’m just a kid. I don’t need that kind of trouble.”

Why love happens between two people: Jan (age 9) says, “No one is sure why it happens, but I heard it has something to do with how you smell. That’s why perfume and deodorant are so popular.” Harlen (age 8) says, “I think you’re supposed to get shot with an arrow or something, but the rest of it isn’t supposed to be so painful.”

What is falling in love like? Roger (age 9) says, “Like an avalanche where you have to run for your life.” Greg (age 8) says, “Love is the most important thing in the world, but baseball is pretty good too.”

When is it okay to kiss someone? Pam (age 7) says, “When they’re rich!” Curt (age 7) is more cautious: “The law says you have to be 18, so I wouldn’t mess with that.” Howard (age 8) is a bit more responsible: “The rule goes like this: If you kiss someone, then you should marry them and have kids with them. It’s the right thing to do.” Jean (age 10) says, “It’s never okay to kiss a boy. They always slobber all over you. That’s why I stopped doing it.”

How to make a marriage work: Ricky (age 7) says, “Tell your wife that she looks pretty even if she looks like a truck!” Bobby (age 9) says, “Be a good kisser. It might make your wife forget that you never take out the trash.” Roger (age 8) says, “Don’t forget your wife’s name. That will mess up the love.”

We are considering the question, “What is Christlike love for your wife?” We’ve seen that…

Sacrificial, purposeful Christlike love should characterize every husband’s relationship with his wife.

Last time we saw that…

1. Love is the priority for husbands.

2. Love is possible for every husband.

3. Love is a self-sacrificing, caring commitment that shows itself in seeking the highest good of the one loved.

“Love is self-sacrificing,” just as “Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Eph. 5:25).

“Love is caring,” just as a man nourishes and cherishes his own flesh, as Christ does the church (Eph. 5:29).

“Love is a commitment,” as implied by the command to love, by Christ’s covenant love for us, and by the analogy of the body.

“Love shows itself.” It is not just words, but also deeds, as seen by Christ’s going to the cross for us.

“Love seeks the highest good of the one loved,” just as Christ died for us so that He might sanctify and cleanse us, to present us to Himself in all our glory, as holy and blameless (Eph. 5:26-27).

We also looked at two of ten contrasts to help understand what a husband’s Christlike love for his wife looks like.

A. Love is sacrificial, not selfish.

Selfishness is the number one enemy of love.

B. Love is purposeful, not aimless, effortless ecstasy.

Your ultimate purpose is to build up your wife in Christ, so that she is “holy and blameless” (Eph. 5:27). We continue now with the rest of the contrasts.

C. Love is realistic, not blind.

While married love aims at the high ideal of a bride who is holy and blameless, it is realistic. A godly husband accepts his wife for who she is and graciously, patiently works with her to help her become all that God intends for her to be. The fact that a wife is not perfect does not detract a husband from his steadfast love for her.

As we saw, husbands are to love their wives just as Christ loved the church (Eph. 5:25). What kind of church does Christ love? Is she perfect, or close to it? Hardly! Even as He went to the cross, Jesus predicted Peter’s denials and that the disciples all would fall away because of Him (Mark 14:27, 30). The New Testament honestly shows that the early churches were far from perfect. All of the epistles address problems in those churches.

Look at your own life since coming to salvation. Have you perfectly obeyed Jesus Christ? Has your love for Him always been fervent? Have you always kept yourself pure and devoted only to Him? And yet, in spite of your many failures, He loves you with a steadfast, committed love!

One of the questions that I ask couples in premarital counseling is, “Knowing that no one is perfect, name at least five faults in your fiancé.” My aim is not to get couples to find fault with each other, but rather to determine whether they’re entering marriage with their eyes wide open. If they can only name one or two faults, they’re going to be in for a rude awakening after the honeymoon, if not before!

When couples come for marriage counseling, invariably they are blaming each other. He blames her for her faults; she blames him for his faults. Speaking to husbands (because our text does), your wife is imperfect, just as the church is imperfect. But Christ calls you to love her as she is with the kind of steadfast love that helps her to grow in godliness. But this means that you need to set the example by your patient, kind, love toward her.

D. Love takes the initiative; it does not depend on a response.

Scripture is clear that God took the initiative in loving us and drawing us to salvation. God didn’t look down through history, see in advance who would believe, and then choose them for salvation. That would make salvation based on some good that He foresaw in us, not on God’s grace alone! Romans 5:8 is plain: “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 9:16 declares, “So then it does not depend on the man who wills or the man who runs, but on God who has mercy.” Thankfully, His love took the initiative.

Applied to husbands, this means that you must continually initiate and demonstrate self-sacrificing love for your wife, regardless of her response. If you think, “Well, I’ll go 50-50, or even, 75-25,” that’s not enough. You’ve got to love 100 percent, even if she’s being disagreeable or difficult to live with. If you respond to her anger with your anger, it only increases alienation. I encourage every husband (and wife) to memorize 1 Peter 3:8-9, which follows immediately Peter’s counsel to wives and husbands: “To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit, not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.” Love takes the initiative to bless; it doesn’t wait for the other person to go first.

E. Love is consistent, not conditioned on performance.

This is the outworking of the previous point. Love takes action even when it is undeserved. But also, you must show consistent love over the long haul, even when your wife is not being especially lovely. I’ve heard husbands complain, “If she would just curb her anger and be more submissive, it would be easier to love her.” But, the husband’s job is not to get his wife to submit or to love her only when she’s lovable, but to love her consistently, just as Christ loves an often difficult, disobedient church.

This does not mean that you never confront your wife regarding her sin. Many husbands err here. Perhaps a wife is frequently angry, but rather than patiently, lovingly helping her acknowledge and overcome her anger, the husband runs for cover to get some relief. Or, he sinfully fights back by confronting her anger with his anger. Neither approach is godly.

A Christlike husband is not quarrelsome, but kind, patient, and able to speak the truth, even when wronged (2 Tim. 2:24-25). He gently, but faithfully comes alongside his wife and teaches her, “Your anger does not glorify God. I want to help you be a godly woman. Let’s see what God’s Word says about how to overcome anger.” By example and by teaching, he helps her to grow in godliness. That’s how Christ deals with His bride the church. That’s how a loving husband must deal with his wife, even when she is not all that she is supposed to be.

F. Love is a total sharing of life, not two independent lives.

Paul says (Eph. 5:28-29), “So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church.” He is not encouraging us to learn to love ourselves so that we can love our wives! That’s modern psychobabble. Rather, he is pointing out that normal people love their bodies, as seen by the way that we care for our bodies and protect them from danger. His point is that your wife is a part of your body, just as we (the church) are members of Christ’s body (Eph. 5:30). A husband and wife are one flesh (Eph. 5:31). When you love her, you’re loving your own body.

That’s an amazing concept! Paul is probably going back to the creation of Eve, who was not created out of the dust of the ground, as Adam was. Rather, she was taken out of his body, bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh (Gen. 2:23). This has profound implications for Christian marriage. For one thing, it means that husbands and wives should not be competing with each other, but cooperating. You’re on the same team. Also, if your wife is hurting, you’re hurting! If you’re insensitive to her pain, you’re denying the fact that she is your body. If you coldly ignore her feelings and say, “That’s your problem,” you’re ignoring yourself. If you attack her with harsh words, you’re attacking yourself. It would be as if a man hit his thumb with a hammer and then said, “You stupid thumb! Why did you get in the way? You deserve to hurt for being so dumb! I’ll teach you!” So he smashes it again! That would be crazy! And yet, that’s how many men treat their wives.

A husband who becomes so engrossed with his career that he ignores his wife is committing the same error, of living independently of his wife. Some years ago, a reporter asked the new head coach of a professional football team if his wife objected to his 18-hour workdays. He replied, “I don’t know. I don’t see her that much.” (From Focus on the Family, May, 1987.) I don’t know if they’re still married, but that coach was not sharing his life with his wife as if she were his own body. At the very least, this analogy means that a husband must spend a lot of time with his wife, sharing his life with her and allowing her to share her life with him.

G. Love is responsible, not irresponsible.

Paul says (Eph. 5:29-30) that husbands must nourish and cherish their wives, “just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body.” This reveals at least two ways that husbands must demonstrate responsible love for their wives:

1) Responsible love provides; it is not lazy.

Nourish has the nuance of feeding. Every man feeds his own body. Every husband is responsible to feed his wife. This includes material provisions, such as the basic necessities of food and covering. A lazy man who refuses to work to provide for his family has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever (1 Tim. 5:8).

But beyond that, nourishing also implies that a husband cares about his wife’s total well-being. He exerts himself to provide for her in every way. He tries to provide for her emotionally and spiritually. At the very least, this means taking the initiative to bring your wife and children to church on Sunday, where you all can be fed nourishing food from God’s Word. Many husbands just shrug their shoulders and go to church wherever the wife wants to go. But a responsible husband takes the lead in making sure that the church they join preaches the truth of God’s Word.

Also, providing for your wife spiritually means reading the Bible and praying together as a family. Read good Christian books and talk about them. Talk about the truths of the faith. Occasionally, go to a good spiritual life or marriage conference. As a husband, you’re responsible to provide spiritual food for your wife.

2) Responsible love cares; it is not callous.

Love cherishes. The word means “warmth,” and pictures a mother tenderly holding her infant against her to keep it warm from the cold. (Paul uses the Greek verb of a mother in 1 Thess. 2:7, where the NASB translates, “tenderly cares.”) Again, this verb stems from the analogy of the wife actually being part of the husband’s body. If your hands get cold on a winter day, you don’t say, “Stupid hands, stay out in the cold for all I care!” Rather, you put them inside your coat and tenderly warm them again. Responsible love cares; it is not indifferent or calloused.

H. Love is emotionally mature, not immature.

In verse 31, Paul quotes Genesis 2:24, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This was written about Adam and Eve, neither of whom had a mother or father! So it was given for our instruction, to show us that a man must be mature enough to leave his parents before he enters into marriage.

Some husbands expect the same treatment from their wives as they got from their mothers! They expect her to clean the house, buy the groceries, manage the money, and generally take care of them, while they buy toys and go play with their buddies. That’s immature, to say the least! A husband must leave his parents so that he can be joined to his wife and lead her in a mature, responsible manner. He should be her leader, not her little boy!

I. Love is a permanent commitment, not a temporary arrangement.

“Be joined to” (Eph. 5:31) points to a permanent, lifelong covenant relationship. Marriage creates a new, one-flesh identity of head and body. It is the permanent commitment that enables a couple to work through difficulties, as every couple has to do. I advise every couple to remove the words “divorce” and “separation” from your vocabularies. Even in the heated emotions of a disagreement, never threaten to leave! As we’ve seen, marriage isn’t just about our happiness. It’s an earthly picture of Christ and the church. For a husband to threaten to leave his wife when there is a problem would be like Christ threatening to leave His bride, the church. But, thankfully (Heb. 13:5b), “He Himself has said, ‘I will never desert you, nor will I ever forsake you.’”

J. Love is growing, exclusive intimacy, not a casual relationship.

In verse 31 Paul cites Genesis 2:24, which lays the foundation of marriage as a one flesh relationship. When God instituted marriage, it was between a man and a woman, not between two people of the same sex, which is an abomination to God (Lev. 18:22). It was also between one man and one woman, not between one man and many women, whether at the same time or in serial fashion. Although God tolerated polygamy in the Old Testament, it never reflected His original design for marriage and it always created problems. The same is true of divorce. God’s design is that one man and one woman be joined exclusively for life.

“One flesh” refers primarily to the sexual union. Paul says (1 Cor. 6:16) that even when a man has sex with a prostitute, he becomes one flesh with her. God has designed the sexual union to create this intimate, one flesh relationship, even when it’s a one-time, impersonal event! But it is to be confined within the boundary of lifelong covenant marriage in order to deepen the relationship between a husband and wife. Casual sex, outside of the permanence of marriage, is never an expression of love, but only of lust.

Marriage is a great mystery, in that it is an earthly picture of Christ and the church (Eph. 5:32). Sex in the Bible is often described as a man knowing his wife. A husband and wife’s sexual union is a sacred picture of the intimate, face-to-face knowledge that we share with our heavenly Bridegroom. Jesus said that there will not be any marriage in heaven (Matt. 22:30). I’ve often said to Marla, “How can heaven be heaven if I can’t be married to you?” The biblical answer is, in heaven there will be no need for the picture, because the reality will have come. We will be married to our heavenly Bridegroom for all eternity. Therefore, we must guard our purity to keep ourselves sexually only for our mates. The picture of Christ and His church is at stake!

Conclusion

The Christlike love that every husband daily should give to his wife is a self-sacrificing, caring commitment that shows itself in seeking the highest good of the one loved. J. Allan Petersen observed (Reader’s Digest [10/93], p. 201):

Most people get married believing a myth—that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: companionship, sexual fulfillment, intimacy, friendship. The truth is that marriage, at the start, is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage; love is in people, and people put it into marriage. There is no romance in marriage; people have to infuse it into their marriages.

A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising—keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty.

Someone asked a woman who had been married to her husband for over 60 years for her best relationship advice. She paused and then said, “Don’t be afraid to be the one who loves the most.” (Nate Bagley, in Reader’s Digest [2/15], p. 45.) That’s good advice for both wives and husbands, but especially for husbands, because God’s command is directed to you (Eph. 5:25): “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” It’s a lifelong, growing process. But make sure that you work at obeying it this week!

Application Questions

  1. Love accepts imperfections, but when a mate is repeatedly sinful, is there a point where you say, “That’s it”? Is divorce ever justified when a mate is abusive or difficult to live with?
  2. What do you do when there is something about your mate that you just don’t like? Is it ever right to try to change her/him?
  3. How can a husband who feels spiritually inferior to his wife provide for her spiritual well-being? Where does he begin?
  4. What should a wife with an immature, irresponsible husband do? Should she try to change him or just accept him as is?

Copyright, Steven J. Cole, 2017, All Rights Reserved.

Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture Quotations are from the New American Standard Bible, Updated Edition © The Lockman Foundation

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2. Introdução ao Novo Testamento

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O Novo Testamento é um registo de eventos históricos, os eventos da “boa-nova” da vida salvadora do Senhor Jesus Cristo – a Sua vida, morte, ressurreição, ascensão e a continuação da Sua obra no mundo –, que é explicada e aplicada pelos apóstolos que Ele escolheu e enviou para o mundo. É também a concretização daqueles acontecimentos há muito antecipados pelo Antigo Testamento. Para além disso, é história sagrada que, ao contrário da história secular, foi escrita sob a orientação sobrenatural do Espírito Santo. Tal significa que se encontra, à semelhança do Antigo Testamento, protegida de erro humano e que possui autoridade divina para a Igreja, nos dias de hoje e através da história da Humanidade, até que o Senhor regresse.

Origem e Significado do Termo “Novo Testamento”

A nossa Bíblia está dividida em duas secções, às quais chamamos Antigo e Novo Testamentos, mas o que significa isto exactamente? A palavra grega para “testamento”, diaqhkh (latim testamentum), significa “vontade, testamento ou aliança”. Utilizada em ligação com o Novo Testamento, “aliança” é a melhor tradução. Como tal, refere-se a um novo acordo feito por um grupo, no qual outros poderão entrar caso aceitem a aliança. Usada em referência às alianças de Deus, designa uma nova relação na qual os homens podem ser recebidos por Ele. O Antigo Testamento ou Aliança é primariamente um registo da interacção de Deus com os israelitas, baseada na Aliança Mosaica concedida no Monte Sinai. Por outro lado, o Novo Testamento ou Aliança (antecipada em Jeremias 31:31 e instituída pelo Senhor Jesus, 1 Co. 11:25) descreve o novo acordo entre Deus e os homens de todas as tribos, línguas, povos e nações que aceitarem a salvação tendo por base a fé em Cristo.

A antiga aliança revelava a santidade de Deus no padrão justo da lei e prometia a chegada de um Redentor; a nova aliança mostra a santidade de Deus na justiça do Seu Filho. Portanto, o Novo Testamento contém aqueles escritos que revelam o conteúdo desta nova aliança.

A mensagem do Novo Testamento centra-se na (1) Pessoa que se entregou a Si mesma para a remissão dos pecados (Mt. 26:28) e no (2) povo (a Igreja) que recebeu a Sua salvação. Assim, a salvação é o tema central do Novo Testamento.1

As designações Antiga e Nova Alianças foram, portanto, aplicadas em primeiro lugar às duas relações que Deus estabeleceu com os homens e, depois, aos livros que contêm os registos destas duas relações. “O Novo Testamento é o tratado divino cujos termos permitiram que Deus nos recebesse, rebeldes e inimigos, na paz Consigo Mesmo”. 2

Preparação Divina para o Novo Testamento

No tempo do Novo Testamento, Roma era a potência mundial dominante, reinando sobre a maior parte do mundo antigo. Ainda assim, numa pequena cidade da Palestina, Belém de Judeia, nasceu aquele que mudaria o mundo. A respeito desta Pessoa, o apóstolo Paulo escreveu: “Mas, ao chegar a plenitude dos tempos, Deus enviou o Seu Filho, nascido de mulher, nascido sujeito à Lei (isto é, à Antiga Aliança)” (Gl. 4:4). Mediante meios especiais e maravilhosos, Deus preparou o mundo para a chegada do Messias. Vários factores contribuíram para esta preparação.

Preparação Através da Nação Judaica

A preparação para a chegada de Cristo é a história do Antigo Testamento. De todas as nações, Deus escolhera os judeus para serem um bem valioso, enquanto reino de sacerdotes, e uma nação santa (Êx.19:6). A este respeito, começando com a promessa que Deus concedera aos patriarcas, Abraão, Isaac e Jacob (Gn. 12:1-3; Rm. 9:4), deveriam ser os guardiães da Palavra de Deus (o Antigo Testamento [Rm. 3:2]) e a via para o Redentor (Gn. 12:3; Gl. 3:8; Rm. 9:5). Portanto, o Antigo Testamento estava cheio de Cristo e antecipava a Sua vinda como Salvador sofredor e glorificado. Para além disso, estas profecias proporcionavam detalhes não só numerosos, mas também muito precisos acerca da linhagem do Messias, local de nascimento, circunstâncias em torno da data do Seu nascimento, vida, morte e até ressurreição.

Embora Israel tivesse sido desobediente e levado para o cativeiro em consequência do julgamento de Deus face à sua dureza de coração, mesmo assim Deus trouxe de volta à sua terra natal um resto do povo setenta anos depois, conforme prometera em preparação para a chegada do Messias. Mesmo que quatrocentos anos tivessem passado desde a redacção do último livro do Antigo Testamento, e apesar do clima religioso ser de aparências e hipocrisias farisaicas, pairava no ar o espírito de antecipação Messiânica, e um resto procurava o Messias.

Preparação Através da Língua Grega

É altamente significante que existisse, no tempo de Cristo – aquele que viera para ser o Salvador do mundo e que enviaria os Seus discípulos até aos confins da terra, a fim de proclamarem o Evangelho (Mt. 28:19-20), – aquilo que A. T. Robertson chamou de “um discurso mundial”.3 Tal resultava das conquistas e aspirações de Alexandre, o Grande, filho do Rei Filipe da Macedónia, que, mais de 300 anos antes do nascimento de Cristo, percorreu o mundo antigo, conquistando nação após nação. O seu desejo consistia num só mundo e numa língua comum. Na sequência das suas vitórias, estabeleceu a língua grega como lingua franca, a linguagem comum, e a cultura grega como padrão de vida e pensamento. Embora o seu império tenha sido de curta duração, a difusão da língua grega persistiu.

É relevante que o discurso grego se tenha tornado um só em vez de muitos dialectos, ao mesmo tempo que o poderio romano se espalhava pelo mundo. A língua difundida pelo exército de Alexandre no mundo oriental persistiu após a divisão do reino e chegou a todas as partes do mundo romano, inclusive à própria Roma. Paulo escreveu à igreja de Roma em grego e Marco Aurélio, Imperador Romano, escreveu as suas Meditações... em grego. Era a língua não só das cartas, mas também do comércio e da vida quotidiana. 4

O importante é que Deus estava a trabalhar na preparação do mundo para uma língua comum, que era um veículo ímpar de comunicação clara e precisa, a fim de proclamar a mensagem do Salvador. Em resultado, os livros do Novo Testamento foram escritos na língua comum da época, o grego koiné. Não foram escritos em hebraico ou aramaico, embora todos os escritores do Novo Testamento fossem judeus, à excepção de Lucas, que era gentio. O grego koiné tornou-se a segunda língua de praticamente toda a gente.

Preparação Através dos Romanos

Mas Deus não acabara de preparar o mundo para a chegada do seu Salvador. Quando Cristo nasceu na Palestina, Roma dominava o mundo. A Palestina encontrava-se sob o poder romano. Acima de tudo, Roma destacava-se pela insistência na lei e ordem. Com o reinado de César Augusto, a mais longa e sangrenta guerra civil da história de Roma terminara finalmente. Em resultado, foi colocado um ponto final a mais de 100 anos de guerra civil, e Roma ampliara vastamente as suas fronteiras. Para além disso, os Romanos construíram um sistema de estradas que, com a protecção providenciada pelo seu exército, que as patrulhava com frequência, contribuiu grandemente para o grau de facilidade e segurança com que os viajantes se podiam deslocar ao longo do império romano. Augusto foi o primeiro romano a usar a púrpura e coroa imperiais, enquanto governante exclusivo do império. Era moderado, sábio e atencioso para com o povo, tendo trazido um tempo grandioso de paz e prosperidade, fazendo de Roma um lugar seguro para viver e viajar. Tal introduziu um período denominado “Pax Romana”, a paz de Roma (27 A.C. – 180 D.C.). Graças a tudo o que Augusto alcançou, muitos diziam que, quando nasceu, nasceu um deus. Foi nestas condições que nasceu Alguém que era e é verdadeiramente a fonte da verdadeira paz pessoal e paz mundial duradoura, versus a paz falsa e temporária que os homens podem proporcionar – não importa quão sábios, bons ou excepcionais. Também era verdadeiramente Deus, o Deus-Homem, em vez de um homem chamado Deus. A presença da norma e lei romanas ajudou a preparar o mundo para a Sua vida e ministério, a fim de que o Evangelho pudesse ser pregado.

Marcos 1:14-15. Depois que João foi preso, Jesus dirigiu-se para a Galileia. Pregava o Evangelho de Deus, e dizia: “Completou-se o tempo e o Reino de Deus está próximo; fazei penitência e crede no Evangelho”.

O Mundo Religioso no Tempo do Novo Testamento

Antes de se analisar o Novo Testamento, também seria bom ter uma imagem global do estado da esfera religiosa quando o Salvador entrou em cena e a Igreja foi enviada ao mundo. À medida que for lendo a citação de Merrill Tenney, repare na grande similaridade com o mundo actual. A mensagem do Salvador revelada no Evangelho é como uma lufada de ar fresco depois de estar fechado numa sala cheia de fumo.

A Igreja Cristã nasceu num mundo cheio de religiões concorrentes que podiam diferir largamente entre si, mas possuíam uma característica comum – a luta para alcançar um deus ou deuses que permaneciam inacessíveis. À excepção do Judaísmo, que ensinava que Deus Se revelara voluntariamente aos patriarcas, a Moisés e aos profetas, nenhuma fé podia falar com certeza acerca da revelação divina nem de algum verdadeiro conceito de pecado e salvação. Os padrões éticos em voga eram superficiais, apesar do ideal e discernimento de alguns filósofos e, quando discursavam a respeito do mal e da virtude, não tinham nem o remédio para um, nem a dinâmica para produzir a outra.

Mesmo no Judaísmo, a verdade revelada fora obscurecida, quer pela incrustação de tradições, quer por negligência...

O paganismo e todas as religiões afastadas do conhecimento e fé na Palavra de Deus originam sempre uma paródia e uma perversão da revelação original de Deus ao homem. Retêm muitos elementos básicos da verdade, mas distorcem-nos em falsidade prática. A soberania divina torna-se fatalismo; a graça transforma-se em indulgência; a justiça torna-se na conformidade com regras arbitrárias; a adoração transforma-se num ritual vazio; a oração torna-se uma súplica egoísta; o sobrenatural degenera em superstição. A luz de Deus fica obscurecida por lendas fantasiosas e completa falsidade. A consequente confusão de crenças e valores deixava os homens à deriva num labirinto de incertezas. Para alguns, a conveniência tornou-se a filosofia de vida dominante; pois, se não é possível haver uma certeza definitiva, não podem existir princípios permanentes que orientem o modo de agir; e, se não existem princípios permanentes, uma pessoa deve viver tão bem como for possível, tirando partido do momento. O cepticismo prevalecia, já que os velhos deuses haviam perdido o seu poder e não tinham aparecido novas divindades. De cada canto surgiram numerosos novos cultos, que invadiram o império e se tornaram os caprichos dos ricos diletantes ou o refúgio dos desesperadamente pobres. Os homens haviam perdido em larga escala as noções de júbilo e de destino que faziam a existência humana valer a pena.5

Composição e Organização do Novo Testamento

O Novo Testamento é composto de vinte e sete livros, escritos por nove autores diferentes. Com base nas suas características literárias, são frequentemente classificados em três grupos principais:

  1. Históricos (cinco livros, os Evangelhos e Actos)
  2. Epistolares (21 livros, de Romanos a Judas)
  3. Proféticos (um livro, Apocalipse [Revelação]).

As duas tabelas que se seguem ilustram a divisão e focam-se nesta classificação tripla dos livros do Novo Testamento. 6

Livros do Novo Testamento

História

Epístolas

Profecia

Mateus

Marcos

Lucas

João

Actos

De Paulo

Gerais

Revelação

Mais cedo, durante as viagens missionárias

Mais tarde,

após a prisão em Jerusalém

Tiago

Hebreus

Judas

1 Pedro

2 Pedro

1 João

2 João

3 João

Gálatas

1 Ts.

2 Ts.

1 Co.

2 Co.

Romanos

Primeira detenção

Colossenses

Efésios

Filémon

Filipenses

Libertação

1 Timóteo

Tito

Segunda detenção

2 Timóteo

Uma Visão Global quanto ao Ponto Central

Históricos

Os Evangelhos:

Mateus, Marcos, Lucas, João

Manifestação:

Contar a história da vinda do Salvador, Sua pessoa e obra.

Actos:

Os Actos do Espírito Santo através dos apóstolos

Propagação:

Proclamar a mensagem do Salvador que veio.

Epistolares

Epístolas:

Cartas para igrejas e indivíduos.

De Romanos a Judas

Explicação:

Desenvolver o significado pleno da pessoa e obra de Cristo e da forma como deveria afectar o percurso do Cristão no mundo.

Profético

Revelação:

O apocalipse do Senhor Jesus Cristo.

Consumação:

Antecipar os eventos do fim dos tempos e o regresso do Senhor, o Seu reino final e o estado eterno.

A Ordem dos Livros do Novo Testamento

Conforme observado na classificação prévia, a ordem dos livros do Novo Testamento é mais lógica do que cronológica. Como Ryrie explica,

Primeiro vêm os Evangelhos, que registam a vida de Cristo; em seguida Actos, que fornece a história da difusão do Cristianismo; depois as epístolas, que mostram o desenvolvimento das doutrinas da Igreja juntamente com os seus problemas; e, finalmente, a visão da segunda vinda de Cristo, em Revelação.7

Embora os estudiosos bíblicos divirjam quanto à data exacta em que os livros do Novo Testamento foram escritos, a ordem de redacção dos livros foi aproximadamente a que se segue:

Livro

Data (D.C.)

Livro

Data (D.C.)

Tiago
Gálatas
1 e 2 Tessalonicenses
Marcos
Mateus
1 Coríntios
2 Coríntios
Romanos
Lucas
Actos
Colossenses, Efésios

45-49
49
51
50s ou 60s
50s ou 60s
55
56
57-58
60
61
61

Filipenses, Filémon
1 Pedro
1 Timóteo
Tito
Hebreus
2 Pedro
2 Timóteo
Judas
João
1, 2, 3 João
Revelação

63
63-64
63-66
63-66
64-68
66
67
68-80
85-90
85-90
90-95

A Compilação dos Livros do Novo Testamento

Originalmente, os livros do Novo Testamento foram postos a circular em separado, e apenas gradualmente compilados para formar aquilo que agora conhecemos como a parte do Novo Testamento no cânone da Escritura. Graças à conservação providenciada por Deus, os nossos vinte e sete livros do Novo Testamento foram separados de muitos outros textos aquando da Igreja primitiva. Foram preservados enquanto parte do cânone do Novo Testamento, devido à sua inspiração e autoridade apostólica. Ryrie apresenta um excelente resumo deste processo:

Depois de serem escritos, os livros individuais não foram imediatamente reunidos no cânone, ou colecção dos vinte e sete textos que compõem o Novo Testamento. Grupos de livros, como as cartas de Paulo e os Evangelhos, foram primeiro conservados pelas igrejas ou pessoas a quem foram enviados e, gradualmente, os vinte e sete livros foram compilados e formalmente reconhecidos como um conjunto pela Igreja.

Este processo demorou cerca de 350 anos. No século segundo, a circulação de livros que promoviam heresias acentuou a necessidade de distinguir entre a Escritura válida e outra literatura cristã. Certos testes foram desenvolvidos a fim de determinar que livros deveriam ser incluídos. (1) O livro foi escrito ou aprovado por um apóstolo? (2) Era o seu conteúdo de natureza espiritual? (3) Fornecia evidência de ser inspirado por Deus? (4) Foi amplamente recebido pelas igrejas?

Nem todos os vinte e sete livros eventualmente reconhecidos como canónicos foram aceites por todas as igrejas nos primeiros séculos, mas tal não significa que aqueles que não foram imediata ou universalmente aceites fossem espúrios. Cartas endereçadas a indivíduos (Filémon, 2 e 3 João) não circularam tão amplamente como as enviadas às igrejas. Os livros mais disputados foram Tiago, Judas, 2 Pedro, 2 e 3 João e Filémon, mas por fim foram incluídos, e o cânone foi certificado no Concílio de Cartago em 397 D.C..

Embora não reste nenhuma cópia original dos textos que compõem o Novo Testamento, existem mais de 4,500 manuscritos gregos de todo ou parte do texto, em conjunto com cerca de 8,000 manuscritos em latim e pelo menos 1,000 outras versões de tradução dos livros originais. O estudo cuidadoso e a comparação destas múltiplas cópias concederam-nos um Novo Testamento preciso e confiável.8

Artigo original por J. Hampton Keathley III, Th.M.

Tradução de C. Oliveira

J. Hampton Keathley III, Th.M., licenciou-se em 1966 no Seminário Teológico de Dallas, trabalhando como pastor durante 28 anos. Em Agosto de 2001, foi-lhe diagnosticado cancro do pulmão e, no dia 29 de Agosto de 2002, partiu para casa, para junto do Senhor.

Hampton escreveu diversos artigos para a Fundação de Estudos Bíblicos (Biblical Studies Foundation), ensinando ocasionalmente Grego do Novo Testamento no Instituto Bíblico Moody, Extensão Noroeste para Estudos Externos, em Spokane, Washington.


1 Charles Caldwell Ryrie, Ryrie Study Bible, Expanded Edition, Moody, p. 1498.

2 J. Greshem Machen, The New Testament, An Introduction to Its Litereature and History, editado por W. John Cook, The Banner of Truth Trust, Edinburgh, 1976, p. 16.

3 A. T. Robertson, A Grammar of the Greek New Testament in the Light of Historical Research, Broadman Press, Nashville, 1934, p. 54.

4 Robertson, p. 54.

5 Merrill C. Tenney, New Testament Times, Eerdmans, Grand Rapids, 1965, p. 107-108.

6 A primeira tabela foi retirada de Ryrie Study Bible, Expanded Edition, por Charles Caldwell Ryrie, Moody, p. 1500.

7 Ryrie, p. 1498.

8 Ryrie, p. 1499.

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1. Introdução à Análise Concisa do Novo Testamento

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Existem, obviamente, numerosas formas para se abordar o estudo da Bíblia: Sintética – uma visão global da Bíblia como um todo, a fim de proporcionar uma compreensão da mensagem geral; Analítica – o processo de ver a Bíblia versículo a versículo, para obter um conhecimento em profundidade; Tópica ou Doutrinal – o estudo da Bíblia de acordo com os seus múltiplos tópicos e doutrinas, e Simbólica – um estudo das diversas imagens ou padrões encontrados na Bíblia, particularmente no Antigo Testamento, que retratam a verdade do Novo Testamento. A abordagem sintética ou de visão global é extremamente útil para o estudante iniciado ou para aqueles que nunca realizaram um estudo do género. A abordagem sintética não só nos permite contemplar o panorama geral ou ver toda a floresta, mas também ajudará a compreender os detalhes numa fase mais avançada do estudo da Bíblia.

Chamamos a isto uma análise breve porque este estudo é mais uma abordagem em casca de noz aos livros do Antigo e Novo Testamentos. O objectivo centra-se em proporcionar ao leitor termos, versículos, temas ou propósitos-chave em cada um dos livros, em conjunto com uma breve descrição do seu conteúdo.1

Artigo original por J. Hampton Keathley III, Th.M.

Tradução de C. Oliveira

J. Hampton Keathley III, Th.M., licenciou-se em 1966 no Seminário Teológico de Dallas, trabalhando como pastor durante 28 anos. Em Agosto de 2001, foi-lhe diagnosticado cancro do pulmão e, no dia 29 de Agosto de 2002, partiu para casa, para junto do Senhor.

Hampton escreveu diversos artigos para a Fundação de Estudos Bíblicos (Biblical Studies Foundation), ensinando ocasionalmente Grego do Novo Testamento no Instituto Bíblico Moody, Extensão Noroeste para Estudos Externos, em Spokane, Washington.


1Algumas das ideias e o plano utilizados nesta Análise de cada um dos livros da Bíblia (autor e título, data, objectivo e tema, versículo(s)-chave, etc.) são similares e retirados de outros materiais, tais como Briefing the Bible, J. Vernon McGee, Zondervan, Grand Rapids, 1949; A Popular Survey of the Old Testament, Norman L. Geisler, Baker Book House, Grand Rapids, 1977; “Old Testament Survey”, Alban Douglas, notas de aulas, Prairieview Bible College; e Talk Thru the Bible, Bruce Wilkinson e Kenneth Boa, Thomas Nelson, Nashville, 1983.

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Riding on Our Background

He was graduated from the finest four-star Christian college. The product of a distinguished evangelical church, he had a good personal grasp of the Scriptures. From a strong Christian family, he was a personable and handsome green shoot -- the whole nine yards!

Like many in his league, however, he was riding rather than building on his background. At seminary he was acceptable, certainly not outstanding. He suffered from a severe case of the blahs, turning in papers that would make better kindling than academic projects. He generally frittered away his time.

Toward the end of his four-year tour of divine duty, I had developed an excellent personal relationship and I called him into my office.

“Bill, I’m disappointed in you.”

“Really, Prof, why?” His eyed widened and blinked.

“Well, I could be wrong but my evaluation of you is this: you are a ten-cylinder man operating on about three, and comparing yourself with others who have only two.”

The atmosphere electrified. He flushed, stifled internal anger, and left. Apparently he felt he had been misunderstood and our friendship bond weakened.

Upon reflection he cooled to thinking temperature. “Maybe Prof is right. Could it be that he’s the only man who loves me enough to tell it like it is? He blew my cover.”

In time our rapport was mended. Bill went on to become a military chaplain, serving with distinction and impact. One of the cherished letters in my file is from Bill, thanking me for caring enough to face him with my convictions.

Counselors can often be cowards, not caring enough to confront. Probably the reason I was sensitive to Bill’s problem is that I had walked the same street some years before.

Prior to graduation from Wheaton College, an administrator called me into his office and “read me the riot act.” Every time I opened by mouth he told me to keep it shut. I, too, stormed out of his office, hotter than a hornet, only to reflect that he was really right. My conclusion: I finally met the first person in twenty-two years who loved me enough to look me in the eye and challenge me with my greatest problem -- an undisciplined tongue. In fact, in review I believe that flaw could have been fatal to my ministry. Another template had been furnished by the Spirit-controlled man who truly loved me, and who, like a good surgeon, was willing to hurt in order to heal.

Too often I have seen marriages go down the drain, relationships deteriorate to the point of destruction, people with glaring personal limitation go unchecked -- all because Christians who know precisely what is wrong will not love sufficiently to tackle the problem.

“I was afraid I would hurt their future,” is one lame excuse. But that is exactly what happens.

My mind recalls the words of our Lord to Peter when he veered off course; it seems a harsh slash to the disciple who had a short time before confessed him as Lord. “Out of my sight, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men.” (Matthew 16:23) These words came from the lips of the One who loves with everlasting love.

A former pastor told me about his experience of sinking into an illicit sexual relationship. He said he felt like an exhausted swimmer battling alone in the pounding surf, unable to escape the strong undertow, about to go down for the last time. On shore he could see all the people of his church. Some were shaking their heads in weeping and despair; others were shouting and shaking their fists in anger and frustration. There were words of encouragement and gestures of good will. There they were, all lined up, watching and waiting for something to happen. Only one man stepped forward and risked everything to plunge into the water and help the victim to safety.

Am I willing to be that man'

Footprints, Howard & Jeanne Hendricks, Multnomah Press, 1981, p. 40-42

Q. Should I Divorce My Husband?

Answer

Dear *****,

Thanks for your email. I can only imagine the heartbreak you have experienced in your marriage, and don’t wish to minimize the suffering you have experienced.

I will try to make my response true to God’s Word and also applicable to your circumstances.

I would begin by calling attention to our Lord’s words in Matthew chapter 19:

3 Some Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?” 4 And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, 5 and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’? 6 ”So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” 7 They *said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to GIVE HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE AND SEND her AWAY?” 8 He *said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. 9 ”And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” 10 The disciples *said to Him, “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.” 11 But He said to them, “Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given. 12 ”For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother’s womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men; and there are also eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to accept this, let him accept it” (Matthew 19:3-12).

The Pharisees, like nearly every Jew of that day (including the disciples), had a permissive view of divorce. They sensed that Jesus did not agree and sought to trap Him in His own words. And so they asked him about divorce in the most liberal and permissive way possible. Can a man divorce his wife for any reason whatever? Earlier in Matthew’s Gospel Jesus dealt with the issue of divorce a bit differently:

32 but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery (Matthew 5:32).

There was an exception clause to be reckoned with, having to do with the matter of “unchastity.” Serious sexual sin was the one factor which might make divorce permissible.

But in Matthew 19 Jesus wants to deal with divorce in terms of the ideal, rather than in terms of the exception. (In reality, the Jews had made the exception the rule. Now, in their minds, any displeasure at all could be grounds for a husband divorcing his wife.) Jesus went to the beginning and to the first marriage and said, in effect, “This is what marriage was intended to be like: one man joined to one woman, until separated by death.” The disciples were nearly as shocked as the Pharisees. If this were the case, they reasoned, then perhaps it would be best not to marry at all. Notice that Jesus did not seek to correct this perception as a mistaken understanding of His words. He, in fact, went on to say that some who took this seriously actually made themselves eunuchs, so as to make marriage (and divorce) no option at all. So that is the ideal, and we should always keep that foremost in our thinking.

Abigail (1 Samuel 25) is an example of a woman living consistently with this ideal. Her husband, Nabal, was, in truth a harsh and cruel fool (25:3, 17, 25). Nevertheless, she risked her life to spare his. In the end, God removed Nabal from this life and Abigail became David’s wife. She endured, trusting in God and living wisely, leaving the matter in God’s hands, and for this she is commended.

While it is a text that I don’t wish to bring into view, it is there in 1 Peter (written by a man who was previously not eager to hear Jesus talk about suffering – see Matthew 16:21-25), chapters 2 and 3:

18 Servants, be submissive to your masters with all respect, not only to those who are good and gentle, but also to those who are unreasonable. 19 For this finds favor, if for the sake of conscience toward God a person bears up under sorrows when suffering unjustly. 20 For what credit is there if, when you sin and are harshly treated, you endure it with patience? But if when you do what is right and suffer for it you patiently endure it, this finds favor with God. 21 For you have been called for this purpose, since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in His steps, 22 WHO COMMITTED NO SIN, NOR WAS ANY DECEIT FOUND IN HIS MOUTH; 23 and while being reviled, He did not revile in return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting Himself to Him who judges righteously; 24 and He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, so that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds you were healed. 25 For you were continually straying like sheep, but now you have returned to the Shepherd and Guardian of your souls. 3:1 In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, 2 s they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. 3 Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; 4 but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; 6 just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear (1 Peter 2:18-3:6, emphasis mine).

As our Lord Jesus suffered abuse to save us from our sins, God might call us to suffer abuse unjustly in order to glorify Himself and draw others to Christ. This text does not find an eager reception today, especially by those who are most concerned with their own rights. Nevertheless, it is there for us to deal with.

Having said this, we cannot ignore those two texts which indicate that serious sexual immorality on the part of the ungodly spouse is sufficient grounds for divorce:

32 but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery (Matthew 5:32, emphasis mine).

8 He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. 9 ”And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery” (Matthew 19:8-9, emphasis mine).

Assuming that I have correctly understood you, you have technical grounds for divorce. As Jesus makes clear, this is not a command to divorce, but may be permission granted for a divorce (Matthew 19:7-8). While I have yet to encourage anyone to pursue divorce, I am aware of situations where divorce would clearly be permitted.

In such cases, it is the responsibility of the godly mate to determine what course of action will most please and glorify God. Such decisions are painful and agonizing, but they must be made.

I am praying that God will guide you to the right course of action, and that you will find peace and rest in responding in a way that pleases God.

I’m praying for you and hope this will prove helpful,

Bob Deffinbaugh

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5. A Loving Husband in Action (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

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How would you describe a mature Christian? What should be the most obvious characteristic of one who walks daily with Jesus Christ as his (or her) Savior and Lord?

Some might say, “The heart of the Christian message is the Bible. Therefore, a spiritually mature Christian is one who knows the Bible well. He studies it diligently. He can explain the core doctrines of the faith. He can cite many passages from memory. Since we can’t know God apart from how He has revealed Himself in His Word, Bible knowledge is the essential mark of maturity.”

Another might say, “Bible knowledge is no good unless you believe its message with all your heart. Great faith in God and the promises of His Word is the mark of maturity.”

“But,” someone else may respond, “faith without works is dead. A spiritually mature person is one who shows his faith by his good deeds. Show me a person with good works and there you’ll see a spiritually mature person.”

“Yes,” says another, “but a person like that may fall away in a time of persecution. The real mark of a mature believer is his perseverance in a time of persecution. If he trusts God even to the point of martyrdom, he is truly spiritually mature.”

Who is right? According to the apostle Paul, none of them. They all missed the central mark of Christian maturity. In fact, you can add up all of those qualities together—great knowledge of the Bible and even the ability to expound it eloquently and powerfully; faith that moves mountains; good deeds; and perseverance even to martyrdom—but if you lack another quality, the sum of your spiritual maturity is zero.

That quality is Christian love (agape). Paul makes this argument in probably the most profound, eloquent treatise on love both in the Bible and in all literature. The Corinthian church was emphasizing a good thing, spiritual gifts, to the neglect of the best. They were using their gifts apart from love. Paul makes the point that the use of their God-given gifts would amount to nothing if the Corinthians did not make love their priority.

In verses 1-3 he shows the preeminence of love: it is greater than all spiritual gifts because without love, gifts are empty. Love is greater than tongues, prophecy, knowledge, faith, good deeds, and even martyrdom. If you do all of these things without love, you’re a spiritual zero.

In verses 4-7 he shows the practice of love: it is greater than all spiritual gifts because of its selfless characteristics. As I’ve often explained (based on several Scriptures), biblical love is a self-sacrificing, caring commitment that shows itself in seeking the highest good of the one loved. Jesus Christ, in His sacrificial death on the cross, is the epitome and embodiment of this kind of love. We are (Eph. 5:2) to “walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma.”

In verses 8-13 he shows the permanence of love: it is greater than all spiritual gifts because it outlasts them. We’re going to focus mainly on verses 4-7, where Paul describes how love acts. While in English most of these words are predicate adjectives, in Greek they are verbs. Love is not talk; it is action.

While all Christians are to love others, even our enemies (Matt. 5:44), and our text was written to help a divided, spiritually immature church, Paul’s command (Eph. 5:25), “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,” shows that husbands especially are responsible to set the example of love in their families. A professing Christian family where the husband and father does not set the example by practicing love is missing the most important characteristic of a Christian home. So my main focus in this message is that …

Practicing selfless love is the priority for every Christian husband.

We’re all prone to apply verses like these to others: “My mate and my kids could sure use a lesson in love. But me? I’m easy to get along with. I’m basically a loving person.” But I ask each of you to forget about everybody else and ask God to apply these verses to you. Paul enumerates 15 characteristics (which we can combine into 13) of love to show how love acts or what it looks like in everyday life. Let’s look briefly at each of them.

1. Selfless love is patient.

Ouch! He nails me right off the bat! I often fail to be patient with my wife and when our children were still in the home, I was often impatient with them. Patience is a quality that I practice beautifully when I don’t need it. But when things start to irritate me, I not only lack patience; I don’t even want to be patient!

The Greek word comes from two words meaning, “long-tempered.” If you’re patient, you’re slow to anger. You endure personal wrongs without retaliating. You graciously bear with others’ imperfections, faults, and differences. You give them time to change and room to make mistakes without coming down hard on them. Does that describe you, men, with your wife and children?

Dr. Thomas Cooper was a man who had developed this quality to a far greater extent than I. During the late 1500’s, Dr. Cooper edited a dictionary with the addition of 33,000 words and many other improvements. He had already been collecting materials for eight years when his wife, a rather difficult woman, went into his study one day while he was gone and burned all of his notes under the pretense of fearing that he would kill himself with study. Eight years of work was a pile of ashes!

Dr. Cooper came home, saw the destruction, and asked who had done it. His wife told him boldly that she had done it. The patient man heaved a deep sigh and said, “Oh Dinah, Dinah, thou hast given a world of trouble!” Then he quietly sat down to another eight years of hard labor, to replace the notes which she had destroyed. (Paul Tan, Encyclopedia of 7700 Illustrations [Assurance Publishers, #2350.) Next time you think you’ve arrived at being patient, that story should give you something to aim for!

2. Selfless love is kind.

Kindness is patience in action. The Greek word comes from a word meaning “useful.” A kind person seeks to be helpful. He looks for needs and opportunities to meet those needs without repayment. The word was used of mellow wine, and suggests a man who is gentle, who has an ability to soothe hurt feelings, to calm an upset person, and to help quietly in practical ways. He is tender and forgiving when wronged.

The test of whether you are kind is when you do something nice for someone who is ungrateful or even mean in return. When He instructed us to love our enemies, Jesus pointed to God as our example, explaining (Luke 6:35), “for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men.” God’s kindness should bring sinners to repentance (Rom. 2:4). His kindness should motivate us to put aside all malice, deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander, and to long for the pure milk of the word so that by it we may grow in respect to salvation (1 Pet. 2:1-3).

Applying this to husbands, would your wife and kids describe you as kind? Do you think about their needs and try to meet those needs? Are you sensitive to their feelings? Do you treat your wife and children with kindness to set the example in your home? Love is not gruff and mean; love is kind.

3. Selfless love is not jealous.

The word means to eagerly desire, and it is used both positively and negatively in the Bible. Positively, God is a jealous God who does not tolerate any idolatry on the part of His people (Ex. 20:5; 34:14). He commends those who are jealous for His honor (Num. 25:13). In that sense, a loving husband is jealous to preserve the sanctity of his marriage. He doesn’t allow anything in himself or in his wife to come between their exclusive fidelity.

But he is not jealous in the negative sense of being greedy, selfish, and possessive. A sinfully jealous husband wants to have his wife totally to himself so that she can meet his needs. He denies her freedom to spend time with her family or with other women friends. He resents the time she spends with the children. He doesn’t trust her when she’s out of his sight or his control. Jealousy is a deed of the flesh, often associated with anger and quarrels (2 Cor. 12:20; Gal. 5:20; James 4:2).

4. Selfless love does not brag and is not arrogant.

These ugly twins are related. They both stem from selfishness and are the flip side of jealousy. A bragging, arrogant husband thinks he knows it all and treats his wife as if she were stupid. He often puts her down either verbally or with a look of disgust. Bragging reveals a proud heart.

A bragging, arrogant husband is competing with his wife for glory. He says things like, “After all I’ve done for you, and you treat me like this!” But love doesn’t seek to build up me; love seeks to build up the other person. Love is humble. The humble, loving husband is aware that everything he has, including his wife, is an undeserved gift from God (1 Cor. 4:7). So he doesn’t boast in himself, but thankfully uses what God has given him to serve her.

5. Selfless love does not act unbecomingly.

Some translations (NIV, ESV) read, “It is not rude.” Love has good manners. It tries to put others at ease. It’s courteous, polite, sensitive to the feelings of others, and tactful. A loving husband considers how he would feel if he were in his wife’s place and treats her as he would want to be treated. He doesn’t make fun of her mistakes or weaknesses. He doesn’t put her down with sarcastic comments. He treats her with respect and honor. Rudeness stems from thinking of ourselves, often at the expense of others.

When a couple is courting, the man will run around the car in a driving rainstorm to open the door for his sweetheart. Five years after they’re married, he says, “What’s the matter? You got a broken arm?” Love is considerate. It’s not rude.

6. Selfless love does not seek his own.

The ESV translates, “It does not insist on its own way.” A loving husband does not demand his rights. Alan Redpath (source unknown) said, “The secret of every discord in Christian homes, communities and churches is that we seek our own way and our own glory.” Selfishness is the root problem of the human race; it is the antithesis of love, which is self-sacrificing.

Elisabeth Elliot was once speaking on this subject to an audience that included some young children who were sitting right in front of her. As she spoke, she wondered how she could make this plain to them, so that they could apply it. Later, she got a letter from one of those children, a six-year-old boy, who wrote, “I am learning to lay down my life for my little sister. She has to take a nap in the afternoon. I don’t have to take a nap. But she can’t go to sleep unless I come and lay down beside her. So I lay down with my little sister.” (In, “Back to the bible Today,” Jan.-Feb. 1994, p. 5.) That boy is learning not to seek his own, but to love!

If husbands and wives, as well as children, would apply this verse as that little boy did, our homes would be free of conflict. We would reflect the spirit of Jesus Christ, who did not come to be served, but to serve and to give His life a ransom for many (Mark 10:45). Aren’t you glad Jesus didn’t insist on His rights? He would have stayed in heaven and we wouldn’t be saved!

7. Selfless love is not provoked.

J. B. Phillips paraphrases, “It is not touchy.” A loving husband does not have a short fuse or a hair-trigger temper. He doesn’t make his family walk on eggshells for fear of setting him off. He doesn’t explode when some little thing that doesn’t go his way. He doesn’t use his temper to intimidate, control, or punish. Some guys excuse their anger by saying, “Sure, I have a bad temper. But I get it all out and it’s over in a few minutes.” Bombs work like that, too! But look at the devastation a bomb leaves behind! Except for rare occasions of righteous anger, anger and love are opposites.

8. Selfless love does not take into account a wrong suffered.

This is an accounting word, used of numerical calculation. It is used of God not imputing our guilt to us, but instead imputing the righteousness of Christ to our account (Rom. 4:6-8). Love doesn’t keep a tally of wrongs and bear a grudge until every wrong is paid for. It doesn’t try to gain the upper hand by reminding the other person of past wrongs. In other words, love forgives.

I once tried to counsel a woman who had marriage problems. The first thing she did was hand me an eight-page detailed record of the wrongs that her husband had committed against her. I told her that if she wanted healing in her marriage, she needed to burn those eight pages. She didn’t like my counsel because she wanted to make her husband pay. She was keeping score! But that’s not love!

9. Selfless love does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth.

These qualities are the flip side of one another. Moffatt puts it, “Love is never glad when others go wrong.” To rejoice in the truth means to be glad about behavior or attitudes that line up with the truth of God’s Word. If your wife sins against you, you don’t gloat because now she owes you one. You grieve, because God is grieved over sin. If she repents and asks forgiveness, you rejoice.

There is a fine balance to love. A loving husband is kind and overlooks many of his wife’s faults, but he doesn’t compromise the truth or take a soft view of sin. To allow your wife to go on in disobedience to God’s Word is not to seek her highest good; it is not love. A loving husband sensitively confronts and corrects because he cares deeply and he knows that sin destroys. And, a loving husband rejoices with the truth. He gets excited when it hears of spiritual victories. He encourages by expressing joy over little evidences of growth. John, the apostle of love, wrote (3 John 4), “I have no greater joy than this, to hear of my children walking in the truth.”

10. Selfless love bears all things.

The four repetitions of “all things” (v. 7) are hyperbole or exaggerations to make a point (John MacArthur, The MacArthur New Testament Commentary, 1 Corinthians [Moody Press], p. 352). There are many sins, such as jealousy, arrogance, rudeness, selfishness, anger, and bitterness that love does not bear, believe, hope, or endure, because those sins destroy relationships. Love gently confronts sin and seeks to restore the sinner to the Lord (Gal. 6:1).

“Bear” can mean either to bear up under or to protect by covering. Many commentators prefer the first meaning, but then it would mean the same as “endures all things” (end of v. 7). I prefer the second meaning, to protect by covering. A loving husband doesn’t broadcast his wife’s faults. He doesn’t put her down with jokes or sarcasm. He defends her character as much as possible within the limits of truth. He won’t lie about her weaknesses, but neither will he deliberately expose them. Love protects.

11. Selfless love believes all things.

The NIV translates, “Love always trusts.” This does not imply gullibility. Rather, a loving husband is not suspicious of his wife’s character or motives without good reason. A good relationship must be built on mutual trust. If trust has been broken, then it needs to be earned again, step by step. But love assumes the other person is innocent until proven guilty, not vice versa. If there is a problem, a loving husband doesn’t immediately accuse or blame his wife. He doesn’t grill her about every detail of her story, like an attorney cross-examining a defendant. He believes the best about her. He trusts her.

12. Selfless love hopes all things.

A loving husband is not pessimistic. He does not expect his wife to fail, but to succeed. If she does fail, he doesn’t take her failure as final. He exudes a godly optimism that says, “I know you can do it, because God in you is able!” This doesn’t mean ignoring reality or closing your eyes to problems. But a loving husband rests on God’s promise to work all things together for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. To hope all things for your wife assumes that you pray for her growth in godliness. Since God “is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think” (Eph. 3:20), love hopes all things.

13. Selfless love endures all things.

“Endures” is a military word meaning to sustain the assault of an enemy. It has the idea of holding up under trial, of persevering in spite of difficulties. It implies that there will be difficult problems in a Christian marriage, but a loving husband hangs in there. He doesn’t give up or tell his wife, “I’ve had it with you! I’m done!” Trusting in God, he remains committed to his wife’s highest good.

There is an epidemic among Christians of bailing out of tough situations. People don’t like something that happens in a church, so they go find another church more to their liking. They run into problems or disagreements in their marriage, grow tired of the situation, and bail out.

“But,” you say, “isn’t adultery a legitimate grounds for divorce?” Technically, yes. But all too often one partner uses it as an escape hatch to bail out of a marriage where both partners have wronged each other in many ways for years. I’m not minimizing the seriousness of adultery. It destroys trust and creates all sorts of problems in a marriage. I’m not suggesting that it’s easy to work through. It takes a lot of time and hard work to rebuild a broken relationship. But God’s best is to forgive and renew the marriage, not to bail out. Love endures all things.

That’s what a loving husband in action looks like. He is selfless, wholly directed to build up his wife. Of course nobody can love like that. Only God is love (1 John 4:7). Put “Christ” in verses 4-7 instead of “love” and you have a description of Him. Jesus is patient, kind, not jealous; does not brag, is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; does not seek His own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; He always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. If we want to love one another, we must focus on His love for us and walk in His Spirit who produces His fruit of love in us (Gal. 5:22).

Conclusion

Humorist Sam Levenson says, “Love at first sight is easy to understand. It’s when two people have been looking at each other for years that it becomes a miracle” (Reader’s Digest [3/83]). But it’s not really a miracle; it’s the result of walking with God, repeatedly confronting your selfishness and daily practicing biblical love toward your wife.

How does a husband grow in love? First, spend time alone with God in His Word and prayer each day. Allow His Word to confront your own selfishness and sin. Then, make love your deliberate aim. As Paul goes on to say (1 Cor. 14:1), “Pursue love.” Also, extend to your wife the same grace that God has extended to you in Christ. He is (Exod. 34:6) “compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in lovingkindness and truth.” A godly husband should reflect those qualities to his wife.

An old legend says that in his old age the apostle John was so weak that he had to be carried into the church meetings. At the end of the meeting he would be helped to his feet to give a word of exhortation. He would invariably repeat, “Little children, love one another.”

The disciples grew weary of the same words every time. Finally they asked him why he said the same thing over and over. He replied, “Because it is the commandment of the Lord, and the observation of it alone is sufficient.” Practicing selfless love is the priority for every Christian husband.

Application Questions

  1. How does patience in love fit in with not tolerating sin? Does patience (even God’s patience) have a limit?
  2. Love does not get provoked and yet God gets angry at our sin. How do you reconcile this? Is it wrong to be angry about someone’s sin?
  3. Love always trusts. But is it loving to trust a person who has repeatedly violated our trust? Where do you draw the line?
  4. Some say, “Love is more important than doctrinal purity.” Why is this a false dichotomy? Can we love apart from truth?

Copyright 2017, Steven J. Cole, All Rights Reserved.

Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture Quotations are from the New American Standard Bible, Updated Edition © The Lockman Foundation

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