In far too many marriages, the wife views sex as a chore rather than a pleasure. That’s because the husband alone gets satisfied in the bedroom and her job is to provide the satisfaction. But that’s not the biblical portrait of sex, nor does it reflect the way God wired us. Both men and women were designed to enjoy sex, but the woman’s body is much more complicated than the man’s. For that reason, a husband has a privilege and a responsibility in the bedroom. He must talk to his wife about what pleases her rather than depend upon his assumptions or his locker room sex education. When a husband begins to strive to please his wife in the bedroom rather than just please himself, he will find that his own experience is heightened to a new level. And he will find something else, too: A wife that is willing and ready to join him in the bedroom more often. Is there selflessness in your sex life?
Do you talk with your wife about sexual likes and dislikes? Do you know what she needs from you in the bedroom or do you operate on assumptions?
Is your wife satisfied during most of your sexual encounters? Are you depriving your wife of pleasure in the bedroom?
3 A husband should give to his wife her sexual rights, and likewise a wife to her husband. 4 It is not the wife who has the rights to her own body, but the husband. In the same way, it is not the husband who has the rights to his own body, but the wife. (1 Corinthians 7:3-4)