Prayerfully keep in mind Proverbs 10:19, ”When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, but he who restrains his lips is wise.” Nonetheless, Matthew records what Jesus told his disciples at the end of his earthly ministry in chapter 28:19, 20; “Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I command you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Although you aren’t “making disciples” in the strict sense, you are teaching and counseling what God requires of husbands and wives. Making disciples may be a good way to view your responsibilities.
As the Pre-Marriage Counselor you are the quarterback! You will communicate with the couple, with the wedding officiant, and the Pre-Marriage Coordinator. You have the responsibility to either approve of the marriage or call it off as far as the church’s involvement is concerned. What a responsibility! You may even be asked to perform the wedding! Presently, all Elder’s and Deacon’s of the church are recognized by the State as qualified to perform weddings.
Your responsibilities could be summarized as follows.
A. Be familiar with the church’s Wedding Policies (Sec. 6) and Process (Sec. 7).
B. Take the couple through the five basic parts in building a biblical understanding and foundation for their marriage.
1. The criteria for marriage.
2. Christian Marriage I: Basics.
3. Christian Marriage II: A Christian husband. A Christian wife.
4. Before your marriage.
5. Your wedding and after.
C. After third meeting, determine if it is advisable for the couple to marry. Notify Pre-Marriage Coordinator, and couple of approval or disapproval. If approved, and non-church officiant approved, couple can now send out invitations.
D. Follow up with the couple within one year of their wedding.