"It's Party Time! - The Importance Of Celebrating Your Marriage" www.marriage101online.com
Summary: Ideas to help couples celebrate marriage on a daily basis
Noisemakers? Check. Brightly colored balloons? Check. Fireworks? Check. You’re cordially invited to a party. What’s the occasion? Your marriage!
Hardships are a fact of life in this broken world; and no marriage is immune to them. That’s why it’s important to cultivate an attitude of celebration that emphasizes what is good in your relationship. In this video, Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg discuss the value of renewing your love on a daily basis. Find out how daily laughter, intimate conversation, and – yes – even passionate sex can deepen your relationship with each other, and with God.
Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg
Barb Rosberg: Something we need to experience on a daily basis is called celebrating love. We’ve got to celebrate. Well, how do we do it? We laugh together daily. Do not go a day without laughter. Laughter is great medicine. There might be times in your life when all you feel you have are lemons. You’re being served lemons by the trials, the reality, the finances, the lack of friendships, betrayals – you name it, we’ve experienced it. But when you can take those lemons and turn them into lemonade, you can laugh again as a couple. This is good medicine. As Gary says, you’ll come through it. There’s a beginning, a middle, and an end – and there’s a purpose for it. Laugh together daily. Oh, we’ve got to celebrate.
Celebrate intimacy in bed. Yes, I said that. You’ve got to pay attention to your sexual relationship. Laugh together in bed. Close those doors, and enjoy one another. Emotional connection is so powerful. Yes, indeed, it’s that talk time. It’s heart to heart. It’s when you can say, “You’re my best friend.” Gary is my soul mate, but it’s come from years of talking together. And if your mate needs to talk about even the littlest of things, enjoy it. It will bond your two hearts as glue together. We see in God’s word that the Song of Songs is so important. Song of Solomon 1:4 says this:
Take me away with you – let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers.
GR: I love this!
BR: Well, Solomon returns her love in Song of Solomon 7 by saying these words:
…the king is held captive by its tresses. How beautiful you are and how pleasing, O love, with your delights!
What we’re talking about is emotional, spiritual, and sexual intimacy. All together, all three elements are true intimacy forged into one. When it’s in the Word of God, you have to read the Song of Songs. It’s a very intense love chapter. God longs for you to express, to show, and to experience great love – emotionally, sexually, and spiritually.
Finally, I want to cover renewing love. It’s a very important takeaway. What’s renewing love? It’s renewing your mind through the power of Christ Jesus. I need to have the mind of Christ on a daily basis. Sometimes it comes in the form of prayer. Sometimes you don’t have the time to really pray those long prayer requests, but imagine this; God is in the place of praying for you. Yes, he’s covering your back. And when you renew your love, and renew your mind, you are joining with God as your very best friend. When I am talking to Jesus, I know that in his Word, he says this – he bends down and he listens to me. Oh, there are times I go sit on his lap as a Father, and I’ll lay my head on his shoulder. And if I have to cry to drain my pain in order to get myself back up, he’ll strengthen me. There have been times I have moved so close to God out of desperation that he, and only he, can give me the strength to know what to do in the next five minutes.
Maybe you’re there. Allow your desperation to bring you to the foot of the cross. Renew your mind, renew your spirit – and then share that with your mate. It has to be experienced individually and independently of your mate, because we need to have a personal connection – a place where we get our own strength that only God can give us. And then, in marriage, this is a place where I love to cover my husband’s back because I can pray for his weaknesses. I can pray for Jesus Christ to take his mind, to speak into his mind, to whisper into his spirit. You’re not supposed to change your mate. It’s the spirit of self-control, where God speaks to you, that we have that renewed mind and that renewed spirit in our marriage.
From “Marriage 101: Back to the Basics” DVD series