“The Deal Of A Lifetime – Investing In Your Marriage”. www.marriage101online.com.
Summary: Strengthening marriage through intentional communication
Infomercials – for most of us they conjure up an image of miracle creams, complicated gadgets, and expensive equipment guaranteed to make us smarter, thinner, and more productive. Of course, the only real guarantee for most of those products it that they’ll end up cluttering the attic or inspiring a garage sale.
Considering the time and money we squander on empty promises, how much would you pay for a guaranteed investment in your marriage? Good news – you already have everything you need to get started. Pull up a chair (or two) as Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg offer you the deal of a lifetime – a better marriage for the price of two chairs and twenty minutes.
Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg
Barb Rosberg: Let’s get very practical because unless we can really bring it home, it won’t make a difference what the Bible says or anybody else. When we think about being practical and bringing it home with emotional intimacy, it means you need to have two chairs. It’s not going to cost you anything but a little time. In fact, we’ve learned in our own research that if you spend ten minutes a day sitting in two chairs and just talking, you can have a fairly good marriage. But you don’t want good; you want great. In fact, if you take twenty minutes a day and really sit and connect and talk to your mate, your marriage will go through the roof and you will have a great marriage.
We used to tell our kids years ago when they were young that unless they were bleeding, broken, or bruised, this was our time. And it strengthened our marriage. In fact, for those of you who haven’t had kids yet, let us remind you that as the marriage goes, so goes the family. We’d spend our discussions around the dinner table with our children, focusing on their needs. But for us to strengthen our marriage, we’d take those twenty minutes a day and connect to one another. And as a wife, I bonded so much more to my husband because I knew he cared about me. I knew he loved me. And I knew he was listening to me.
Gary Rosberg: I want you to imagine and identify two chairs in your home. They could be on the front porch, they could be in the living room, they can be anywhere you want. But when you go to those chairs, you’re not there to have conflict, you’re not there to pay the bills, you’re not there to make phone calls or get on the Blackberry. You’re there to connect with one another. And when Barb and I sit in those two chairs, it’s as if all else outside the two of us ceases. It’s where we spend time in the Word. It’s where we spend time connecting with one another.
From “Marriage 101: Back to the Basics” DVD series