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We need to be clear about how we can lighten each other’s loads. Every married couple has to discern and figure out how they are going to do this. I think the preponderance of responsibility falls on the husband to set the pace for “OUTSERVING” our mate.
How do you do this?
A lot of men didn’t see this in the home they grew up in but when we go to the Word of God, we can see where Jesus demonstrates this. One of the best examples of this is in the upper room just before He went to the cross. You know the story.
He’s seated at the table. He’s with the disciples. He knows what’s coming.
Jesus gets up from the table and he grabs a cloth and a bowl. You can imagine the disciples looking at him, thinking “What is Jesus going to do?” because in that culture the lowliest servant is the one that washes the feet of the visitors. Yet here is Jesus.
He takes the bowl up to Peter and begins to wash his feet. Peter pushes back because he doesn’t want that to be done.
What Jesus has demonstrated is absolute humility and service. When he did that, he set the pace for us as men on how we are to love and “OUTSERVE” our wives.
Years ago I spoke at a Promise Keepers and there were 67,000 guys at that event in Indianapolis. My wife, Barbara had no idea I was going to do this but I brought her up on the platform. I then took a bottle of water and a handkerchief and got down on my knees and said to the guys “I’m going to show you something you need to do because this is what Jesus demonstrates for us. This isn’t about Gary and Barb Rosberg, this is about Christ and the way he serves us.” And I then washed Barb’s feet.
At the end of this passage from John 13, verse 17 is what rocked my world. Jesus says:
“If you understand these things, you will be blessed if you do them.” – John 13:17 (NET)
Every person reading this wants to be blessed by God. I want to be blessed by God. So we need to be intentional about serving our spouse.
Dr. Gary Rosberg
From “Marriage 101: Back to the Basics” DVD series