Spiritual Growth Study Guide: PrayerRelated Media
We started a new series last week, “What Does It Take To Grow?” Last week we saw that the knowing and obeying the Bible is a non-negotiable essential if you want to grow to maturity as a Christian.
I hope that you looked over the list of suggestions to ratchet up your commitment in the area of Bible study. I hope you checked one of the blanks, and are making an effort to increase your intake of the Word of God this week, month.
A. The Goal: That you will commit to the habits necessary for spiritual maturity.
Theme Verse: 2 Pet 3:18 But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen.
Did you realize that God wants you to grow up? God isn’t content that you have put your trust in Jesus Christ as Savior, he now wants you to follow and obey Him as Lord of your life. The One who you obey.
B. How long does spiritual maturity take?
Does the scripture give us any indication of how long it should take until we can be called “mature”? It does. Paul wrote the letter of I Corinthians 4-5 years after he had ministered in the city of Corinth. He probably arrived sometime in A.D. 51 and stayed there until A.D. 53. He wrote the letter of I Corinthians about A.D. 56-57. He expected that 4-5 years would be sufficient time for the Corinthians to have reached a level of maturity.
Here’s what he says in I Corinthians 3:
1Dear brothers and sisters, when I was with you I couldn’t talk to you as I would to mature Christians. I had to talk as though you belonged to this world or as though you were infants in the Christian life. 2I had to feed you with milk and not with solid food, because you couldn’t handle anything stronger. And you still aren’t ready, 3for you are still controlled by your own sinful desires. You are jealous of one another and quarrel with each other. Doesn’t that prove you are controlled by your own desires? You are acting like people who don’t belong to the Lord.
If you have been a Christian for less than five years, don’t be impatient with yourself. Don’t demand instant maturity of yourself; it isn’t possible. Do however, push yourself towards consistent growth.
5 years! Does that make you uncomfortable? Perhaps you have been a Christian for more than 5 years. You know you should be farther along than you now are, but you pacify your conscience by saying, “Well, I’m headed the right direction. Someday I’ll be mature, but who knows when.” Maturity is not a nebulous, far off, unattainable goal that you achieve the month before you die. According to Paul maturity is a concrete goal that can be attained in a relatively short span of time. How are you doing?
C. Overview: Seven Habits of Maturing Christians
We are focusing on the Seven Basic Habits every Christian needs to develop in order to grow to spiritual maturity. We will …
- Equip you with the skills you need to begin these habits
- Explain the tools you need to continue these habits.
1. In order to grow we need to eat—The Bible
2. In order to grow we need to breathe—Prayer
3. In order to grow we need good spiritual hygiene—Confession of sin
4. In order to grow we need a caring family—Fellowship
5. In order to grow we need regular exercise—Service
6. In order to grow we need protection—Temptation
7. In order to grow we need to give—Stewardship
“Base your happiness on your hope in Christ. When trials come, endure them patiently; steadfastly maintain the habit of prayer.” Romans 12:12 (Phillips)
A. Casual Praying
Mealtime. Bedtime. When you have to. When it’s expected of you. Nothing wrong with that. But your praying tends to be rather routine and quick.
B. Committed Praying
This kind of praying is focused. It is purposeful. You’re getting serious about prayer because there is a burden on your heart that is driving you to your knees. This is the sort of praying you do when your teenager gets his driver’s license.
C. Combat Praying
Here’s what Paul had to say about a fellow-worker,
Colossians 4:12 Epaphras, who is one of you and a servant of Christ Jesus, sends greetings. He is always wrestling in prayer for you, that you may stand firm in all the sill of God, mature and fully assured.
Epaphras wrestled in prayer for the Colossian Christians. This is serious. This is exertion, hard work. This kind of praying is what a father does when he hears his daughter is away from God, living with a boyfriend. This is the kind of praying a mother does when she hears her son is attending the Mormon church, thinking about marrying a nice Mormon gal.
Where are you on the Prayer Growth Chart? At what level is your prayer life?
Video—Prayer Group Therapy (WillowCreek Video)
Transition: How can we overcome some of the perils that prayer group fell into?
This is out of Matthew 6:9-15, commonly called the Lord’s Prayer. This prayer, Jesus said, “This is how you should pray” not what you should pray. He’s giving us an illustration of things we should use in prayer, not this specific prayer to pray.
There are Six Crucial Elements to Effective Prayer
A. The first crucial element to effective prayer is Praise. Begin by expressing your love to God.
Our Father in heaven, may your name be honored. (v. 9)
When you come to prayer you want to begin by expressing your love to God. Start by saying to Him, “Lord, I want to focus on You.” If I come to prayer focusing on myself and my needs first, I just leave prayer more depressed and frustrated than when I began. But if I come to prayer with my focus on God, what I can see of Him, what I can learn of Him, what it is that He can show me then instead of going away thinking how big my problems are, I’ll go away thinking how big my God is!
How do you praise God?
1. First, you can praise Him for Who He is—His character.
The first crucial element to prayer is God’s character. God’s character is the basis for answered prayer. God answers the prayers that acknowledge who He is.
This past week I lost my Palm Pilot. That’s equivalent to losing my mind! I searched all through the house. I accused my wife. Nothing! I couldn’t find it anywhere. I went down to the office, turned it upside down and still couldn’t find it. So I stood by my desk and prayed, “God, you know where it, I obviously don’t. Could you help me find it, please?” I reached down and closed my Bible, and there was the Palm Pilot, under my open Bible!
2. Secondly, you can praise Him for what He does—His works.
Whole psalms are devoted to this—praising God for His incredible deeds for His people. Are you keeping a record of this in your life? In your family’s life? The deliverances of God? The answers to prayer?
This past Friday I asked God to help me with two specific things. My tape player broke. That doesn’t sound like a big deal, and it isn’t, but every morning when I’m shaving and showering, I listen to the Book of Proverbs on cassette tape. I wanted to find another one, cheap. One other prayer. For the past 20 years or so, I’ve had a pair of good hiking boots. This winter, I noticed that the soles were coming off. I took them into a shoe repair shop and was told it would be $65.00 to fix them. So I asked God to help me find a good, cheap pair of hiking boots, and a good, cheap tape recorder. By 10:00 Friday morning, I’d found a tape player for $6.99, and a wonderful pair of boots that fits me fine for $12.99. And today, I’m praising God for being concerned enough about minor things in my life to answer!
Psalm 100:4 says “Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise. Be thankful unto him, and bless his name.”
- Commitment: I will praise God for who He is and what He does.
B. The second crucial element to effective prayer is Purpose: Commit yourself to God’s purpose and will for your life.
The next part of the Lord’s prayer says,
10May your Kingdom come soon.
May your will be done here on earth, just as it is in heaven.
This is an acknowledgment that God is God and I am not. This part of the prayer forces me to examine whether or not I really want God’s purposes fulfilled in my life, in my family, at my job, in my school, in this country.
Have you ever thought through what this might entail, saying to God, “You do whatever you want in any aspect of my life. I want what you want more than what I want.”
You want a new car. God has been saying, “The old one is fine. It still gets you from point A to point B, the heater works, and the insurance is low. Keep it! And use the money you’d have spent on it to help fulfill my work in India through Gospel for Asia.”
That’s what praying “Your will be done” means.
You love chocolate eclairs. God has been saying, “Lay off on the chocolate eclairs. One a day is too much. Cut back to one a week. Save the money you don’t spend, and put it in the deacon’s fund.”
That’s what praying “Your will be done” means.
You and your girlfriend have been sexually intimate. You’ve crossed the line, but you don’t want to quit. God has been saying, “Break off the relationship. You know this is hurting both of you. Break it off now.”
That’s what praying “Your will be done” means.
You’ve been uneasy about coming home and spending as much time as you do with ESPN. God’s been saying, “Your family needs you. Turn the TV off, limit your viewing to 3 hours a week.”
That’s what praying “Your will be done” means.
Romans 12:2 urges us to “Offer yourself as a living sacrifice to God, dedicated to his service and pleasing to him. This is the true worship that you should offer.”
- Commitment: I will obey God no matter what He asks of me.
C. The third crucial element to effective prayer is Provision: Ask God to provide for your needs.
11Give us our food for today
What needs do I pray about? Absolutely every one of them. There is nothing too great for God’s power to take care of and there’s nothing too insignificant for His concern. So all my needs I’m to pray about.
Here’s a rule of thumb: it it’s big enough for you to worry about, it’s big enough for you to pray about. I’d recommend that you keep track of the things you worry about through the course of a day, write them all down, and make that your daily prayer list. Your worries are a good clue to the things you should be praying about.
Philippians 4:6 “Don’t worry about anything but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”
Philippians 4:19 says “God will supply all of my needs from His riches in glory because of what Christ Jesus has done for us.”
Prayer is my personal declaration of dependence on God. When I come to Him I’m saying, “I’m totally dependent upon You, God. Not because of what I can work for or what I can earn by my smarts or by my industry, but I am totally dependent on You for my needs.”
- Commitment: I will depend on God’s provision for all of my needs.
D. The fourth crucial element to effective prayer is Pardon: Ask God’s forgiveness for your sins.
12and forgive us our sins,
This part of the Lord’s prayer says, “Forgive us just as we have forgiven those who have sinned against us.”
There are four steps to forgiveness:
a. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal every sin.
Psalm 139 says. “Examine me, O God, and know my mind; test me, and discover my thoughts. Find out if there is any evil in me.”
Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the sin.
b. Confess each sin specifically.
Sometimes we like to get away with confession of sin by just saying, “Forgive me all my sins.” You committed those sins individually, you better ask for forgiveness individually. None of this blanket coverage stuff.
Proverbs 28:13 “You will never succeed in life if you try to hide your sins. Confess them and give them up. Then God will show mercy to you.”
c. Make restitution to others when necessary.
Matthew 5:23-24 “When you remember your brother has something against you, go at once to make peace with him, then come back and offer your gift to God.”
So when God reveals something that you’ve done to someone else make restitution and get it off your conscious.
d. By faith accept God’s forgiveness.
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins, and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9.
When we talk about forgiveness you need to accept the fact that you don’t have to live with guilt. It can be forgiven and wiped clean.
- Commitment: I will confess my sins as God reveals them and accept His forgiveness.
E. The fifth crucial element to effective prayer is Purity: Let go of your grudges and bitterness
The Lord’s prayer says, “ just as we have forgiven those who have sinned against us.”
Christ’s assumption is that we will be forgiving because we have been forgiven. God will not respond to your prayers as long as you are harboring grudges, bitterness, venom in your heart. Listen to what the Bible says,
1 John 3:21 Dear friends, if our conscience is clear, we can come to God with bold confidence. 22And we will receive whatever we request because we obey him and do the things that please him.
Psalm 66:18 If I had not confessed the sin in my heart, my Lord would not have listened. 19But God did listen! He paid attention to my prayer.
- Commitment: I will release those who have sinned against me because God has forgiven me.
F. The sixth crucial element to effective prayer is Protection: Ask for divine protection.
13And don’t let us yield to temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.
We, as believers, face a spiritual battle every day and Satan wants to defeat us through temptation and fear. If I start the day without praying for God’s strength, I’m going into battle with my own resources—and that ain’t much!
If you pray this prayer, you need to search your own heart and life, find out where you tend to fall. You need to know yourself, because Satan, the enemy of your soul, is a master at knowing our weaknesses, and using them to bring about our downfall.
1 Cor 10:13 But remember that the temptations that come into your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will keep the temptation from becoming so strong that you can’t stand up against it. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you will not give in to it.
- Commitment: I will learn my areas of weakness and depend on God’s protection.
This prayer begins in the context of relationship—our Father. If I lose sight of the fact that I have a relationship with a father in heaven, my prayers will deteriorate.
The foundation for effective prayer is a relationship with a loving Heavenly Father. Relationships thrive on communication, and wither without it. God’s listening, are you talking?
For the next 15 minutes the praise team is going to lead us, and we’re going to practice what I’ve just been preaching. It may be that you simply wish to sit in your seat and sing and pray silently. That’s great.
It may be that you want to kneel there at your seat and pray. That’s great!
It may be that you want to come up front and pray with an elder/elder’s wife. They will be here to pray for you. They are ready to anoint you with oil and pray for you, if you’d like.
Our small group leaders and deacons are here, and will be leading some small groups in praying. If you’d prefer to join a small group and pray with a few others, please join one of them. You don’t have to pray out loud. You are free to silently enter in as others pray.
Let’s practice the pattern that the Lord Jesus Christ gave us. Let’s pray!