The need for honest confronting of issues with genuine caring for people is demonstrated by David Augsburger in his courageous and insightful book, Caring Enough to Confront. He lists how to confront and care at the same time.
|I feel deeply about the issue at stake||I care about our relationship.|
|I want to clearly express my view||I want to hear your view.|
|I want respect for my view||I want to respect your insights.|
|I want you to trust me with your honest feelings||I trust you to be able to handle my honest feelings.|
|I want you to keep working with me until weve reached a new understanding.||I promise to stay with the discussion until weve reached an understanding.|
|I want your unpressured, clear, honest view our differences.||I will not trick, pressure, manipulate, or distort the differences between us.|
|I want your caring-confronting response||I give you my loving, honest respect.|