When I was growing up, “adultery” was a word one whispered. Today the word is “affair,” and its a subtle change. Affair has an air of mystery about it, and romance, and excitement. Radio, television, movies, booksall of the mediaassume or encourage the affair. Its easy to fall into the trap: everyone is doing it, so it must be OK. Unless, of course, you believe in keeping the laws of God.
For whatever reason, keeping the seventh commandment is becoming more difficult for more and more Christians. In fact, JU. Allan Petersen begins his new book, The Myth of the Greener Grass, with a question: “Is Anyone Faithful Anymore” And its a good question. He writes that in his 38 years of traveling ministry he has counseled pastors, pastors wives, missionaries, Sunday school teachers, Christian counselors, and church members who reflect the increasing incidence of extramarital affairs among professing Christian people. There is a “tendency to find reasons to support this behavior, even though those reasons might be contrary to the moral and biblical convictions we have long held.”
Today we want to talk about relationships, not sin. Peterson points out the relationship of David and Bathsheba, and the results of their affair. The lessons we can learn from the story of David, a man of God who fell into sin, apply to all of us, men and women alike. Here are some of the, pointed out by Petersen:
1. No one, however chosen, blessed, and used of God, is immune to an extramarital affair.
2. Anyone, regardless of how many victories he has won, can fall disastrously.
3. The act of infidelity is the result of uncontrolled desires, thoughts, and fantasies.
4. Your body is your servant or it becomes your master.
5. A Christian who falls will excuse, rationalize, and conceal, the same as anyone else.
6. Sin can be enjoyable but it can never be successfully covered.
7. One night of passion can spark years of family pain.
8. Failure is neither fatal nor final.